Tuesday, May 10, 2011

ABC's of a Godly Home Day H

Day H- Husbands and Hangin' In

Spiritual Challenge Day H- Husbands. There are so many verses that speak to us wives about how we are to relate to our husbands; we are to be their helpmeet, we are to be submissive and we are to do them good not harm, all the days or our lives. Today however, I want to speak to you about another verse, one I think gets overlooked sometimes. Ephesians 5:33 states "However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband." The second part of this verse speaks to us as wives and it's the part I want to focus on today. We are to respect our husbands. Respect means to consider worthy of high regard, to honor or esteem. When you honor someone, you will treat them kindly and do what you can to make them happy or comfortable. This verse in Ephesians does not come with conditions; it doesn't say if your husband treats you kindly then respect him. It doesn't say if your husbands does what you think he should do then respect him. No ladies, it says see that the wife respects her husband. No questions, no maybes. There are so many parts of respecting your husband but I will only cover a few here for lack of space. One huge way to respect your husband is to never say anything negative about him. Not to your best friend, not to your mother and not to your children. If you must vent and complain about your husband, do it to God and to Him alone. Would you feel respected if you heard your husband bad mouthing you to someone? Neither would he! Another way is not to question his actions, especially not in front of others. If there is something you don't agree with, then ask him about it very calmly in private. However, if he doesn't change his mind or action, respect it and him and let it go. (unless it is unbiblical) Your husband is the head of the household, not you; that is God's order not mine. Finally one other way to respect your husband is to do things in your home that he appreciates and enjoys. Don't fix alot of meals that you know he doesn't care for, fix his favorites instead. If he likes the home in a certain order, then do your best to keep it that way. If he has a favorite drink, such as lemonade like my hubby, then keep it cold and ready for him in the fridge. Do what you can to make your home comfortable for your husband, it will show him you care about him and respect his wishes. Pray about this and let God lead you in specific ways you can respect your husband.

Physical Challenge Day H- Hang in there. I know I have been giving you alot of challenges and I know some of them may be difficult for you, but hang in there because it will be worth it. I am praying that you will see a change for the better in your attitude and in your home. Remember this challenge is not just about getting your home in order, but also about getting our heart attitudes in the right place. Once you have your heart right, your home will eventually follow. It may take awhile before you see a big change in your home, but that is okay. Getting our hearts right with God and our families is far more important than having a clean home. I firmly believe that once your heart is set on the things that really matter, you will have the time and energy to get your home in the order it needs to be in for your family. So your challenge today is to hang in there and not give up. Take this time to catch up on any challenge that you haven't finished or just to renew your commitment to this journey. Pray and ask God to refresh your heart and lead you in each step of this journey. May He bless you for your desire to draw nearer to him and to your family.

Blessings my friends.


  1. Beside 1 Peter chapter 3 in my Bible, I have written "Honor is based on position, not performance."
    Great challenge today. If we don't have our relationship with our husband right then all of our other relationships will truly suffer.

  2. Tara, you are so right. Our relationship with our husband effects everything else we do and it is so important to keep that bond strong by following God's word and His will for our marriage.