We are continuing our series on becoming a SUPERwoman. Before you tense up from either anger that I would suggest anyone try to be superwoman or from guilt that you aren't doing enough, please keep reading. The kind of superwoman I am talking about isn't the woman who "does it all", I'm talking about being a super woman.
If you want a further explanation about this series, you can go back to the first post here.
Today's topic is on becoming relaxed and not stressing about the little things.
I tend to get caught up in all my to do's that are waiting to be finished, or the schoolwork that needs entered in the log book, or the laundry piled on my bed, or the floors that need swept, or the.... I could go on for quite awhile but I think you get the idea.
There are always tasks that need to be completed, it is a never ending job for a homemaker. I believe that no matter what stage of life we are in, there are always jobs that can be done - whether it is cleaning, mothering, schooling, sewing, decorating, cooking, etc. There is always something we could be doing.
What does this have to do with being relaxed and not stressing? Don't stress over all that you have to do. Don't let your to do list become so important that you get irritated at your children when they interrupt your work. Our children aren't interruptions to our work, they ARE our work! Our husbands are our work. The neighbors and family members that we witness to are our work.
Our goal, our finish line, our prize - they are all heavenly rewards. It isn't a clean home. It isn't perfectly behaved children. It isn't the best cooked supper with the best baked dessert. Our goal, our purpose is to walk with God and to glorify Him in all we do.
Are we glorifying Him when we get stressed or anxious?
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God." Philippians 4:6
This verse tells us not to be anxious about anything! We are to give our concerns, our worries, our stresses over to God and let Him take care of them.
Something else we need to remember as we are learning to relax, is that God made you just the way you are. He knows your quirks, your habits and your weaknesses. He loves you anyway! HE MADE YOU and He does NOT make mistakes. God put us in the circumstances we are in. He didn't put me in a big house like he did some women. He didn't give me 8 children like he did some women. He didn't give me a hugely popular blog that makes money or even the gift of elegant writing as He has for others. It is so easy for us to compare ourselves to others and become discontent. Or worse, while we are comparing, we begin to worry what others think of us. I could worry that my grammar is poor (because grammar school was a long time ago) or I could worry that my yard is normally covered with clutter not beautiful landscaping and what are others going to think? But these thoughts are not of God. We need to remember He has individual plans for each of us and we need to embrace His plan, instead of comparing it to others.
Sisters, we will never be happy if we are constantly comparing ourselves, our husbands, our children, our lives to those of others. It is a trap by Satan to make you discontent. Do not let him in your head. Do not let him steal your joy.
My dear friend relax. I'll say it again, RELAX. Close your eyes, take a deep breath and tell God thank you for each blessing in your life; name them one by one. Ask Him to show you what is important to Him, to guide you in your walk and to keep your eye on the prize.
"I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus." Philippians 3:14
When we are relaxed and we focus on the things of God, it will be easier for us to stay calm when interrupted. It will be easier for us to answer gently. It will be easier for us to respond not react.
When we relax and not stress over the unimportant things, we will become super women. We will be known by our family as a super woman of God and that dear sisters is our goal.