Wednesday, December 29, 2010
Modest dress dilemma
For anyone that might read this but doesn't know or remember my history with this issue, a couple years ago I decided to go to dresses/skirts only. At that time, I honestly felt that was what God was telling me to do. My dh supported me and we both agreed that it was not a command from God for women to wear skirts only but He did command women to dress modestly. I felt more modest in skirts and with much prayer and study, went to skirts full time. Fast forward to the past year or so, I have since stopped wearing skirts full time. I believe part of it is that we changed churches and I didn't feel the need to be such an obvious example of modesty in a place where modesty is definitely not a priority. Also, the women at our new church were examples of modesty, meekness and gentleness without being skirts only. So, I slowly relaxed my position on skirts only and now seldom wear them. However, my inner being still struggles with it occasionally (like anytime I allow myself to think upon it). I can't tell what God's will is for me in this area anymore. I honestly struggle back and forth. I can give reasons why either way of dress is ok. Now, granted, I still dress modestly when not in skirts. I don't wear low cut shirts, sleeveless shirts, shorts or short skirts. I also try to make sure my jeans/pants are not tight. I know sometimes I feel as if I draw more attention to myself when I am in a skirt, for example when we go to rodeos (which we do alot in summer). I don't really know if I do draw attention to myself in those instances of if it is just me being self conscious. Sometimes I feel that if I honestly didn't care at all what others around me thought, I would be skirts full time no matter what.But sometimes I wonder if I only want to wear skirts because of the image it conjures in my mind. When I see a woman in a long, flowing modest skirt, I see feminine loveliness. It gives me a feeling of biblical beauty and warmth. See, I'm struggling. Do you have thoughts or comments? I would appreciate prayers that God would show me His will in this.