I want to share an excerpt from the book "Don't Make Me Count to Three" by Ginger Plowman. This is actually a quote in the book from Ted Tripp but I really wanted to share it with you. This is in regards to when two children are fighting over one toy and the parent's usual response of "who had it first?".
"This response misses heart issues. "Who had it first?" is an issue of justice. Justice operates in the favor of the child who has the quicker draw in getting the toy to begin with. If we look at this situation in terms of the heart, the issues change. Both children are displaying hardness of heart. Both are being selfish. Both children are saying, "I don't care about your happiness. I am only concerned about myself. I want this toy. I will have it and be happy regardless of what that means to you." In terms of issues of the heart, you have two sinning children. Two children preferring themselves before the other. Two children who are breaking God's law."
Ginger addresses this issue and discusses how she prayed and asked God for direction in this situation and she encourages her readers to do the same. Here is the plan she came up with: "We wanted a solution that would be easy for them to understand and put into practice on their own. So, we came up with the rule that it is not only selfish but it is rude to take or even ask for something that someone else has until that person is obviously through with it." She compares this to a situation of several adults visiting and one being handed a set of pictures to look at, now even though another adult had not seen the pictures and wanted to look at them, they would wait patiently until the first adult was finished with the pictures before asking for them. It would be rude to ask them for the pictures before they were finished looking for themselves.
I really like how she decided to handle the above situation, it eliminates the problem of having two children sinning and then trying to deal with both of their heart issues.
What do you think?